Advantage dating online
There’s nothing like bonding with your girlfriends over online dating stories!If there are truly so many singles out there waiting to find love, it makes each unsuccessful date or failed, short-lived relationship cut extra deep.When I was in college, I seemed to be stuck in a cycle: I would meet someone new, chat with them for a few days, date them for a couple weeks, and then, when things didn't work out, I'd be left dejected and would inevitably look for someone new as a distraction from my heartache. Luckily I broke out of this damaging habit of constantly needing to have someone, anyone in my life, and got comfortable being on my own, only dating when I really felt like it.I understand how easy it is to get sucked into the magnetic pull of dating apps, but truthfully, you don't need anyone else to be happy.Talking to new people all day long is tiring, and you'll breathe a sigh of relief when you're not always checking your phone *just one more time* to see if that guy on Tinder messaged you back yet.When you aren't actively dating, it's like a #TBT to the olden days when the only way to meet someone was out in the wild, at a bar or club with your friends.
When you have no one to impress but yourself, you can feel confident staying inside in your best groutfit (all-gray outfit, for the unenlightened), and saving your killer full-makeup looks for more important things. Just saying.)OK, I'm not naive enough to suggest that we won't still have our phones an inch from our noses at all times, because Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook still exist.
But if you use dating apps religiously, you'll know that they can be a serious time-suck: it's easy to spend hours a day browsing profiles, messaging people, and setting up dates.
When you're not constantly texting new people in an attempt to find a relationship, you'll be more present in everyday life — at work, with your friends, during nights out — and can take a much-needed break from ~the grid~ (or maybe just devote more time to perfecting your Insta selfie game, whatever floats your boat).
Not to get overly sentimental, but Charlotte on Sex and the City was so right: Our friends really are the only soulmates we need.
There were times in college when I would be bored and plan a date for the evening, only to have a meh time, come back to my dorm and experience serious FOMO because my friends had all somehow invented eight new inside jokes during my hours-long absence.stalk his Instagram account to see what he was up to)?