Dating again at 48
Putting yourself out there can be incredibly intimidating, and no more so than when you’re coming out of a long-term relationship.
Or at least, that’s what I would be doing if my friends weren’t actively trying to stop me.
Rule #1: When I feel the impulse do something for “him” (whomever he might be), I will look at my own life and ask if that nurturing thing is something I need to do for myself.
I have no confidence whatsoever that this tactic will work, but I hope to try.
As a friend of mine put it to me later, &mmp;ldquo; Dating is like adding Miracle-Gro to every character defect you possess.” He asked me to dinner.
We spent three hours chatting, making connections, occasionally flirting, a bit of hand-holding. I found him attractive and decided he was someone I wanted to know better. He needed to get home, he said, suddenly slammed with exhaustion.
Currently writing Don’t Call Me Biker Chick, a book about women, risk-taking and motorcycles, Bernadette Murphy has published three books of narrative nonfiction and teaches creative writing at the Antioch University Los Angeles MFA program.