Dating and partnering
Naturally, becoming emotionally mature ourselves helps with this process and dramatically improves our chances of achieving a solid and rewarding relationship.2.
Openness The ideal partner is open, undefended and willing to be vulnerable.
Instead, they’re looking for someone to share life with as equals and to appreciate independently of themselves.
Having broken ties to old identities and patterns, this person is much more available to a romantic partner and the new family that they create together.
They do not try to control each other with threatening or manipulative behavior.
They are respectful of their partner’s distinct personal boundaries, while at the same time remaining close physically and emotionally.
They develop a strong sense of independence and autonomy, having differentiated from destructive influences from early in life.
As they evolve within themselves, they are less likely to look for someone to compensate for shortcomings and weaknesses or to complete their incompleteness.
They feel congenial toward and supportive of each other’s overall goals in life.Conversely, being willing to accept feedback from our partners and looking for that kernel of truth in what they say allows us to develop ourselves in a similar manner.3.Honesty & Integrity The ideal partner realizes the importance of honesty in a close relationship. Dishonesty confuses the other person, betraying their vulnerability and shattering their sense of reality.It’s not about a boyfriend who remembers to take out the trash or a girlfriend who never runs late.
These qualities are nice, but to truly grow up means making an active effort to recognize and resolve negative influences from our past.
No human being is perfect, so finding someone who is approachable and receptive to feedback can be a huge asset to a lasting union.