Dating sex in workplace
Case in point: In July, a coolly composed Blac Chyna had posted personal information about his relationship with Chyna on his Instagram account, including sexually explicit images, and accused Chyna of cheating on him and using him for his fortune.
Legal experts, including Chyna’s now-lawyer Lisa Bloom, argued that —celebrity reminders of how the stigma against current, former, and transitioning sex workers can affect our romantic relationships.
One partner, she said, “was nice enough when we were together, but I always knew he hated my job.” When they broke up, Lily said that he accused her of cheating on him and Nearly ten years ago, when I was just getting out of sex work, my boyfriend used my status as a transitioning sex worker against me.
We danced around the subject of my sexual history, just as we avoided most honest discussions.
The normalization of sex worker abuse contributes to the abuse of all women.
This despite the fact that our experiences in the industry range and may be positive, negative, or (very frequently) neutral.
Beyond having to put up with tedious misconceptions, research shows that the criminalized and stigmatized nature of the industry makes sex workers vulnerable to particular forms of intimate partner violence.
It had taken years of therapy and other forms of self-help to develop a more right-sized view of myself and my experience.
Even so, in certain situations, it was sometimes challenging to not over-rely on my sexuality as a source of power and esteem.
When it comes to changing our culture around this issue, it’s up to all of us to address our own biases, which can have harmful consequences if left unchecked.