Getting back out there dating
It’s also a great defense against the glaring distractions of stand-ins for the real thing. Jolie-Pitt, and despite what you might think about how the whole Brangelina thing went down, her words speak to the importance of moving beyond our self-limiting perspectives of love. Get back in the saddle by remembering that our power to make new, loving choices only exists in the present.You don’t have to have a perfect upbringing in order to experience love.“They’re crazy,” you’ll say, without ever taking responsibility for the roles you played in the past.As my friend Jamie says, “Crazy recognizes crazy,” and she’s right.Rather than siphon off support from other people’s partners, hire the proper helpers to tackle your tasks, and turn your focus to attracting the kind of partner who can lovingly support you in the right ways.One of the biggest barriers to realizing love and intimacy with others is the inability to be our authentic selves.When someone who we’ve been close to suddenly steps out of our lives, it can leave a huge emotional void.
Get back in the saddle and get messy while you’re at it!Telling yourself there’s no one for you is not only statistically impossible; it’s also arrogant to think that in the entirety of the known world, there doesn’t exist a single person (literally) who could love you like you deserve. Get back in the saddle by giving yourself permission to let go of old hurt and excuses.Forgive your past self and embrace the fact that the love you seek is seeking you, too. He was the type of guy I said I’d never get involved with.So it was important that I acknowledged that those were the things I needed to bring back into balance as priorities before someone else could even enter the picture.
I did this by meditating, reading, and opening myself back up to spiritual teachers.
Allow yourself to be unapologetically you, whether you’re on a date or on your own. Rediscover your likes and dislikes, find out what you really love, investigate new interests, let yourself be seen and heard as though for the first time.